Shall We Dance? & abit on marriage…

Hey…juz watched “Shall we dance?”… haha.. I know it’s supposed to be like the ‘feel good’ show of the yr….reviews were bad…as in…no surprises…I guess. But I am a sucker for such shows man! Gimme a romantic comedy anytime… :)

OK, back to the show…well, the reviews were rite tt there were no surprises…married man see pretty girl, start to act strange, do strange things…tempted to stray…morals…or rather LOVE prevails…married man goes back to loving wife and family…happily-ever-after and all tt stuff…ya know? Haha… LOVE THEM! :þ

Ritez…but there were nice things to note about the show too… nice ballroom dancing… making me FEEL like taking up classes… haha…anyone onz too? If it helps…dancing oso aids in losing weight, making more friends, having better posture, meeting chio girls/yandao guys, feeling sexy…haha…I tink u get the idea… ;) It’s nice…and ballroom dancing juz looks so graceful…I mean for Waltz… but there’re also other kinds…Quick Step looks like great fun…and not to mention those HOT HOT latin dances… OOOooooHHHhhhh WOOOOOOOOOO…….! *feverish*

The show oso has nice quotes…

“We need a witness to our lives. There's a billion people on the planet... I mean, what does any one life really mean? But in a marriage, you're promising to care about everything. The good things, the bad things, the terrible things, the mundane things... all of it, all of the time, every day. You're saying 'Your life will not go unnoticed because I will notice it. Your life will not go un-witnessed because I will be your witness'.” Need to get a better source for quotes for this show cuz it’s TOO new…haha…add when I found la..

And the show juz got me tinking abt tt story I posted recently…abt marriage…I mean as in after a long long time…. The life cycle of a marriage…lovey dovey first few yrs…then comes the little bouncy ones…then all the focus goes to the kids as they grow up, go to skool and all…then when they r all grown up which takes around 15yrs? And u SUDDENLY realized, ur marriage is breaking apart cuz u hvn’t been working on the marriage and the rs wif ur spouse for a long time…I tink tt’s like real common…tt’s y ppl divorce ya? And thr’s oso those who focused too much on career…and/or other things… *my male fren, watching wif me, beg to differ….he says there r ppl who tried hard even during marriage and kids dun change things….it’s like a *hint hint* thingy? Haha…well…I tink kids DO change things, no matter how….they juz do….most of the times bring couples closer actually, juz tt the focus is shifted, tt’s all…* But this show sort of lets ppl see the light…I mean thr r ppl who do treasure marriage, their spouses, their families… it’s heartwarming….totally a FEEL GOOD movie…really…worth watching if u r like feeling alittle down…alittle blue…it’s sure to perk u up… and thr r little jokes sprinkled here and thr... and seeing all the pretty faces, charming eyes and nice figures dun hurt anyone much, do they? :þ

It’s funny too, as in not the actual show :P At one pt in the show, after Richard Gere was saying something REAL touching to the wife…haha…I mean my tears have welled up too…I was like ready to cry oso la…. Then I heard a lot of noises of ppl ripping open packets of tissue…haha…then I sort of started laughing… rather funny huh? It’s a pity my male fren had no tissue…haha… :þ no la… I had my own…but din wanna use…else he wld know I’m abt to cry too….haha… well…now he knows anywayz….. :þ

Wld say it’s a nice show la…serious… and those who r onz abt ballroom dancing… tell me ya? I’m gonna find some classes liao…Quite serious… though it wld be nice to find some dance I wld continue even after taking lessons… else I wld forget the steps after awhile like wat happened to my LINDY HOP…now I have returned everything back to my teachers…it's a pity... Ok…i mean…if I were to take a refresher course, I’m sure to pick it up again fast…juz tt I can’t really rem NOW… Hopeless…. :(

gonna slp... maybe dream of me dancing?

Shall we dance, Baby....?

When You Divorce Me, Carry Me Out in Your Arms

On my wedding day, I carried my wife in my arms. The bridal car stopped in front of our one-room flat. My buddies insisted that I carry her out of the car in my arms. So I carried her into our home. She was then plump and shy. I was a strong and happy bridegroom.

This was the scene of ten years ago.

The following days were as simple as a cup of pure water: we had a kid; I went into business and tried to make more money. When the assets were steadily increasing, the affections between us seemed to ebb. She was a civil servant. Every morning we left home together and got home almost at the same time. Our kid was studying in a boarding school.

Our marriage life seemed to be enviably happy. But the calm life was more likely to be affected by unpredictable changes.

Dew came into my life.

It was a sunny day. I stood on a spacious balcony. Dew hugged me from behind. My heart once again was immersed in her stream of love. This was the apartment I bought for her.

Dew said, you are the kind of man who best draws girls. Her words suddenly reminded me of my wife. When we just married, my wife said, Men like you, once successful, will be very attractive to girls. Thinking of this, I became somewhat hesitant. I knew I had betrayed my wife. But I couldn't help doing so.

I moved Dew's hands aside and said, you go to select some furniture, O.K.? I’ve got something to do in the company. Obviously she was unhappy, because I had promised her to go and see with her. At the moment, the idea of divorce became clearer in my mind although it used to be something impossible to me.

However, I found it rather difficult to tell my wife about it. No matter how mildly I mentioned it to her, she would be deeply hurt. Honestly, she was a good wife. Every evening she was busy preparing dinner. I was sitting in front of the TV. The dinner was ready soon. Then we watched TV together. Or, I was lounging before the computer, visualizing Dew's body. This was the means of my entertainment.

One day I said to her in a slight joking way, suppose we divorce, what will you do? She stared at me for a few seconds without a word. Apparently she believed that divorce was something too far away from her. I couldn't imagine how she would react once she got to know I was serious.

When my wife went to my office, Dew had just stepped out. Almost all the staff looked at my wife with a sympathetic eye and tried to hide something while talking with her. She seemed to have got some hint. She gently smiled at my subordinates. But I read some hurt in her eyes.

Once again, Dew said to me, Divorce her, O.K.? Then we live together. I nodded. I knew I could not hesitate any more.

When my wife served the last dish, I held her hand. I've got something to tell you, I said. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want to divorce. I raised a serious topic calmly.

She didn’t seem to be much annoyed by my words instead she asked me softly, why? I'm serious. I avoided her question. This so-called answer turned her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man!

At that night, we didn’t talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer, because my heart had gone to Dew.

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. I felt a pain in my heart. The woman who had been living ten years with me would become a stranger one day. But I could not take back what I had said.

Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer.

A late night, I came back home after entertaining my clients. I saw her writing something at the table. I fell asleep fast. When I woke up, I found she was still there. I turned over and was asleep again. She brought up her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but I was supposed to give her one month's time before divorce, and in the month's time we must live as normal life as possible. Her reason was simple: our son would finish his summer vacation a month later and she didn't want him to see our marriage was broken.

She passed me the agreement she drafted, and then asked me; do you still remember how I entered our bridal room on the wedding day?

This question suddenly brought back all those wonderful memories to me. I nodded and said, I remember. You carried me in your arms, she continued, so, I have a requirement, that is, you carry me out in your arms on the day when we divorce. From now to the end of this month, you must carry me out from the bedroom to the door every morning.

I accepted with a smile. I knew she missed those sweet days and wished to end her marriage with a romantic form.

I told Dew about my wife s divorce conditions. She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she does, she has to face the result of divorce, she said scornfully. Her words more or less made me feel uncomfortable.

My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. We even treated each other as a stranger. So when I carried her out for the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mummy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly, Let us start from today, don't tell our son. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for bus, I drove to office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. We were so close that I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this intimate woman carefully for a long time. I found she was not young any more. There were some fine wrinkles on her face.

On the third day, she whispered to me, the outside garden is being demolished. Be careful when you pass there.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I seemed to feel that we were still an intimate couple and I was holding my sweetheart in my arms. The visualization of Dew became vaguer.

On the fifth and sixth day, she kept reminding me something, such as, where she put the ironed shirts, I should be careful while cooking, etc. I nodded. The sense of intimacy was even stronger.
I didn't tell Dew about this. I felt it was easier to carry her. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger. I said to her, it seems not difficult to carry you now. She was picking her dresses. I was waiting to carry her out. She tried quite a few but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown fatter. I smiled. But I suddenly realized that it was because she was thinner that I could carry her more easily, not because I was stronger. I knew she had buried all the bitterness in her heart.

Again, I felt a sense of pain. Subconsciously I reached out a hand to touch her head.

Our son came in at the moment. Dad, it's time to carry mum out. He said. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had been an essential part of his life. She gestured our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face because I was afraid I would change my mind at the last minute. I held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly, as if we came back to our wedding day. But her much lighter weight made me sad.

On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. She said, actually I hope you will hold me in your arms until we are old. I held her tightly and said, both you and I didn't notice that our life was lack of such intimacy.

I jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my decision. I walked upstairs. Dew opened the door. I said to her, Sorry, Dew, I won't divorce. I'm serious. She looked at me, astonished. The she touched my forehead. You got no fever. She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Dew, I said, I can only say sorry to you, I won t divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn’t value the details of life, not because we didn’t love each other any more. Now I understand that since I carried her into the home, she gave birth to our child, I am supposed to hold her until I am old. So I have to say sorry to you.

Dew seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove to the office.

When I passed the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet for my wife which was her favourite. The salesgirl asked me to write the greeting words on the card. I smiled and wrote, I'll carry you out every morning until we are old.

Juz tot this is a beautiful touching story...and wanted to share wif u guys...

Absolutely no mood..... :(

It's saturday afternoon...2.35pm...at least 2 frens have asked me to go out...for activities which i normally wld enjoy very much...BUT i'm still home... :(

One being karaoke...and the other, going to the beach... karaoke is like my all-time fav pastime..like to sing...and to listen to others sing... pretty relaxing...pretty satisfying to hear myself sing wonderfully....haha.. :P Going to the beach...i'm quite a sun, sand, sea girl...though i dun look the part...cuz i'm normally fair... but i love to be by the sea, listen to the waves...look out to the horizon...be out in the sun... like to play beach volley...frisbee...or juz laze in the sun... oso dun mind cycling...it's a relatively stress-free activity compared to rollerblading for me... BUT i'm still home... :(

Y i am still home...? Cuz i'm rather lazy...rather slpy...rather in a nua mood...haha... i.e. no mood at all....to do anything except walk ard in the house, occasionally collapsing into my bed..occasionally disturbing my mother who's bz playing mahjong...occasionally watching my Ronn slp...

Karaoke...i've had quite enuff for the wk...went on both Mon and Thu...so din really wanna go again today...and prob need to rest my throat for awhile...

Beach...cuz it's East Coast tt my frens r going to today...i prefer Sentosa, one cuz of the distance, two cuz of the cleanliness, three cuz of the crowd...enuff reasons to justify y i din go? YES...definitely... cuz i absolutely dun like crowds....and distance, translated to the travelling time is a huge determinant of whr i go to... i was telling my fren tt i tink i wldn't mind gg JB...cuz i tink JB nearer to me than ECP lor...haha.. if only they were gg to sentosa... then i wld be out in the sun now..sipping some cocktails... *tt was a dream...haha...* tink the weather today is perfect for going to the beach though...

Ritez...so i'll be home all day...probably...but i tink i'm supposed to plan a dinner wif amelia and gang later...i dunno if i'm up to it now... given this mood and the sun's making me drowsy....i'm heading for my wonderfully cosy bed...hmm...on 2nd tots, i tink i'll head for my mum's room instead... my room's too bright... hehe...and i somehow quite like to nap on my mother's bed... :)

oh yes...i'm comtemplating on going to velvet later...anyone else onz? sigh...i'm such a 夜猫子...only like to wander out at nite....

The hairy issue...

I have been missing for a few days now...losing some hair over wat i can blog...haha..not really... Juz no mood to write...tt's all...today's weather (i'm toking internal weather forecast here...) is clearing again...and i got a hairy problem on hand too....

This hair grows on my head...yes...those long lush strands of mine..now they r only slightly wavy at the ends... i had permed them in April last yr, i tink. Was rather nice...but it did its toll on my hair...now my hair's abit dry... Another reason y it's dry is cuz it's long...too long...according to one too many frens....

IS IT TOO LONG? I dunno..shall take a pic and post it tonite when i get home... i mean the longest (hair is V-shaped at the back) is juz slightly past my waist. Not like very long ya..*but is the longest I have ever leave my hair though* I have seen people with hair to the floor, k! And she was holding it in her hands similar to holding a shawl, haha...I mean...y leave hair SO long...? it's such a hassle..even at my length... I can't imagine how long it takes her to wash her hair and let it dry... :( Mine oredi takes long enuff to wash and dry!

Anywayz..I'm supposed to take the advice of everyone and trim my hair... now I'm considering my options..which is the essense of today's post... considering and assessing my options to come to a damn good conclusion (hopefully with the help of my dearest frens who read my blog!)

1st option: Juz trim abit off the ends, i.e. normal maintenance for long hair. This wld result in hair which is still quite long, with the wavy ends...abit neither here, nor there...i tink...and does not solve the problems of complaining frens... But hair wld be less dry cuz the ends are trimmed off.

2nd option: Trim around 3 inches off, i.e. to trim off all the wavy ends. This wld result in rather short hair...I wld probably be crying my eyes out for the next 3 days - 1 wk after cutting my hair... Cuz it's sad to cut off so much hair which takes me around 1/2 yr or so to grow..? tt's sad k... guys and girls wif short hair won't understand... But wld be a much neater hairstyle to maintain and wld satisfy my frens...

3rd option: 1st or 2nd option + colouring on my hair. This would result in a NEW me for CNY.. i normally colour my hair reddish, cuz it complements my fair complexion, which is more towards rosy...than yellowish.. hmm...I actually wldn't mind trying some yellowish tones oso... And if i do choose this option, I wld have a base colour, prob reddish-copper/brown and streaks of orange and yellow perhaps... something striking... tired of boring hair...but not overboard though. wldn't be like bright orange and yellow la! Will consult the hairstylist before colouring, definitely..must trust professionals.. :) haha... Ok, IF i choose this option, you would probably see a brand new eye-catching me for the new year... :) But I am tinking of the cost of doing this though. had not planned to do chemical work on my hair for CNY actually...

4th option: Rebonding. Hmm...I know i received feedback that I dun look fantastic with rebonded hair cuz it's a little too flat..to complement my round face.. I know I know... But it's the most ez to maintain ma. U wld probably nvr be caught wif a bad hair day when u have rebonded hair... compared to other styles la. I nvr liked bothering too much wif my hair on a daily basis...else i wld be losing much hair liao! Therefore, maybe i wld consider this option again... Juz that the cost wld be another deterence.

5th option: Perming again. Ok, this option I juz started to consider only after last nite. I was out wif a fren to the movies...The Aviator. I'm not sure y but i suddenly felt like re-perming my hair. Maybe it was the countless beautiful ladies wif permed hair in the movie or it was the image of me wif my long permed hair in the mirror when i visited the toilet. I dunno for sure. But this option is being considered seriously today. It wld prob be trimming and perming again if i do choose this option. And oso...perming looks best on long hair too... it's so tempting..

Anywayz, i have always like permed hair, except that it's so bothersome to maintain. and I never do maintain it well enuff either, haha.. i have frens who spend hundreds on doing the perming and then buy another hundreds' worth of hair products to condition the hair, maintain the curls and wat-have-u... I only stick to my usual routine and usual hair products. maybe tt's y my hair is not as nice as those on magazines? haha...

I first permed my hair in Sep/Oct 2002. Had done it on impulse as I had juz suffered from a terrible heartbreak. Wanted to change my whole image. But it's also cuz i had been meaning to perm my hair anyway. It was juz the beginning of the ceramic perming trend and i had wanted to be one of the first ones wif the curly worly. With a price to pay, tink the bill came up to quite a bit... :( I was taken aback when my hair was finished. Hmm...it was big! haha.. very pong pong...not used to it at all. I mean it does look nice but I guess i needed some time to get used to it! Anywayz, comments from frens regarding that first perming experience was tt i look "狂野, sexy, more matured, etc..." hmm...i tink i did look wilder at tt time. nice.. haha... cuz I have always looked rather innocent...young...guai guai...nerd nerd? haha... so tt was quite am image switch.. :) But my hair suffered quite abit...cuz the chemicals made it SO dry... i had to invest on treatment after tt, to help it recover...more money spent... A long while after tt, I cldn't bear doing any other chemical works on my hair, except treatment... Then i went on to rebond my hair. So it's a period of straight and curly hair for me...as it is for many ladies nowadays... i seldom colour my hair though..

Oh...enuff abt my hairy history... now i got to start tinking abt wat i wanna do to my hair in the end... hmm...well...a final option which i had mildly considered is to chop it all off!!! I mean...sigh...it's such a bother rite? and hair is 三千烦恼丝...so the less the better? haha.. but i was convinced by my Ronn that it's not nice to be botah...cuz i jio-ed him to cut it all off ma... he say not nice lor, so i better not! haha.. :P

So frens, ball is in ur court... how shld i deal wif my hair now? It's around 3 wks to CNY... hurry k? :)

Bad Year Ahead? :(

oh no! bad news...rooster year is gonna be bad for goaties... and this is not the only one i have seen so far, toking abt our fortune..or rather misfortune...

HOW? HOW?? HOW???

The TAU family...

Hey...I juz read the papers (Today). I'm not sure if you have heard of Mr Brown but i have been following his column for awhile since I found it...he writes well, is humourous yet critical abt local issues, w/o offending higher authorities...tt takes some skills here... Was also touched by his commitment towards his child with autism...and i did read up on the condition after finding out abt it in his column too. Opens my eye to different sides of life...and different kinds of people...and how people r coping wif difficulties in life... :)

Today he wrote abt the Taupok incident and the recent complaint letter in ST...BOY! was he funny... abt the Tau family...Tauhuay, Taunee, Taugay...and even our own Singapore Idol, Taufik kena involved! :þ haha...

Ok, i HAVE been thru JC...but maybe i'm not from the same generation or I've been thru JC wif my eyes closed..but the 'premier JC in the Bukit Timah Area" that i studied in, seems not to have this kind of extra cirriculum activities while I was thr. I haven't even seen pillaring, though i have heard of it AFTER JC times... so is it cuz my 'grey uniform' JC is really so boring...that the students do not engage in such EXCITING and DANGEROUS activities...or am I juz out of tt loop? :(

I tink it wld have been interested to juz stand around and watch... ask me to go under the pile? oh no... I really dun wanna be tau kee, u know... the flat flat kind! :þ haha..

On a serious note, I do agree that it can be rather hazardous and dangerous to engage in such activities...since it can cause long term health problems to do wif the spine and if i'm not wrong, injury to the spine can cause paralysis of parts of body rite? Yes, it's dangerous...no doubt!

BUT parents, tink abt the times when u went to catch spiders wif ur frens in the Kampong, or playing catching around the forest near ur house... is thr no danger at all? I mean thr's probably a dozen species of spiders which are poisionous rite? and forests r well known for dangerous animals like lions? tigers? even snakes are enuff to give u the kiss of death.... So were u disallowed to go about ur activities during those times or were u allowed the freedom to roam and grow up and toughen yourself?

I mean, maybe such an example is a little too far fetched cuz lions and tigers r not common in S'pore, ya? But it's the same principle. U allow ur kids to have their own space for growth and to toughen up for their own life ahead, with or without u... For how long can you be protecting them? Not for the whole lifetime, I'm sure... And i agree wif Mr Brown that the son should have the courage to stand up for himself if he doesn't wan to join in the taupoking acitivities, instead of getting the father to write a letter. The father should have more sense than tt, shouldm't he? I wonder wat lengths parents are going to protect their precious kids...from apparent dangers...

*No doubt I am not a parent yet, And i have not joined in such activities before but I intend to give my kids the space to choose wat they wan or not wan to do...Hopefuly i will be able to do tt*

OK, and i oso hold the view that youngsters are definitely more able to withstand such weight above them rite? I mean...their bodies and bones are supposed to be stronger rite? As u grow older, your bones get weaker and all... dun tell me you want to be playing Taupok at age of 50 cuz u missed it in your youth....tt's courting your own death man!

Therefore, it's impt that our youths experience SOME hardships in the course of their life...even if it's juz some of these silly games that they play in school... It's enuff to let them know, if they were to perform badly in smtg, they will kena from the rest of the team! haha.. that they hv to suffer from the stress... it's impt survival skills for life!

If u r int to read the online version, click the link and search for "The Tao of Pok" for the column, careful not to fall off your chair though...tt's rather hazardous and life-threatening as well...if i cld quote the particular father who complained.. :þ And may i oso remind u that u might become the laughing stock in ur office for the rest of the yr...and this yr has juz started!

Go to http://www.mrbrown.com/blog/musings/index.html for more of his rantings abt the matter...and for more laughs...

I tink he's one funny man! You rockz, Brownie! :)

P/S: http://www.quotesoflaozi.blogspot.com/ oso has some stuff on the topic. feel free to drop by thr...

Projek Muhibah - 15th Jan 2005

I juz read from the papers (Urban) about this volunteer work to help old folks clean and paint their flats on this sat. those who are interested, pls click the link. All details r on the site.

PLace is Toa Payoh Lor 1, Families we helping are Chinese, Malay and Indian who stay in 1 or 2-room flats in that area. Time is this sat, fr 10am to 7pm.

I tink it's quite meaningful to help. If u r free on that day, let's go help together. On the online form, u can indicate that you would like to be teamed wif me, i'm not sure if they can do such arrangements but we'll try lor. if not in same team, wld be fine too. We r thr to help, not out on excursions wat.

Helping others bring happiness into your heart...

"Should I or Should I not…" - That is THE qn....

Hello…third blog of the day…amazing.. haha… the title is taken off a fren’s msn nick for the day… haha.. he’s deciding whether to buy a car or not… I mean is that such a difficult thing to decide? I’m not sure…but it sure is for him… so well…I told him I was gonna blog one for him…and he went ga-ga…. :þ no, he didn’t… was kidding… STILL, I’m gonna blog one abt decisions for buying a car… for, not juz him but everyone who’s deciding now..cuz of the low COE prices, which caused a rush for cars….

Ritez…the pros…or shld I mention the cons first…? The main issues are that of MONEY, MONEY and MONEY… haha…the root of all evil, isn’t it? Cuz this fren of mine had been rather trouble-free (except tt he’s abit lonely… :þ)…but along came the decision to buy a car…which made him lose slp…become hyper-active though lack of slp…. Turned his life upside down…. I guess I shld really do him a favour and get on to the pros and cons to save him! Haha…I’m the saviour…oh shit…this might anger some Christians…? SORRY… I meant like, juz for my fren la… ok….?

The cons… *Actually he only wanted me to give him 5, so I’m juz gonna list 5*

Money, 1st thing… the money spent on the car can be used for other better purposes, like investment, entertainment, home improvement, treating ur frens better by showering them wif gifts…? Or simply savings, but gahmen say must learn to invest, cuz the low interest rate doesn’t help you to earn enuff money for retirement wor.. gahmen say, must listen… Anywayz… Money tt could have gone into planning for future – dating, wedding, marriage, children, family…go into paying for a car. Worth it? Money tt could have gone in buying that high quality home theatre system which rocks the whole house when u turn it on or to renovate your house into a palace… Go into buying a car.. Worth it? Haha…I know I am exaggerating rite here… but tink of where else the money might be put to better use? How abt helping the tsunami victims?

2nd thing, still Money, in a different context… A Car is a liability… the moment u buy a car…you are like flushing a handful of blue fifty dollar notes down the WC…be careful not to cause a choke..! There is road tax, insurance, financing cost and wat have you, even before you own your precious car… Then comes monthly season parking charges at the HDB carpark, and all the other carpark charges whenever u see the “Welcome” light followed by your vehicle number…and how abt other maintenance costs like cleaning svcs, ½ yrly vehicle checkups… and the biggest bomb of all…you will be at the mercy of those big oil tycoons who manipulates the prices of crude oil, causing ups and downs in petrol prices, which in turn controls your mood swings… haha… Exaggerated but TRUE! :þ

3rd, this point was mentioned by my fren himself… he said that he would have to change his lifestyle if he were to buy a car…not as much leisure activities for him, no more late nite KTV, movies round the clock or treats for me… :( tt’s bad, isn’t it? Particularly the last one… Tt’s y I conclude rite here, tt it’s bad to own a car! Haha…no..i’m kidding.. I’m a professional, I have to do a full analysis alrite! But seriously, why own a car and live in misery…in terms of both sad, social-less life and scrimp-and-save life? Somehow I tink he would not go out as often, cuz of the petrol costs? Parking fees? I have met ppl who have a car but prefer taking MRT to town, I mean, if u hv a car, use it… leaving it thr does not justify its existence… if u r trying to save on traveling costs, u might as well sell the car… tt’s whr the major savings is… but even if he does still go out often, the it’s worse, refer back to Pt 2 for more info.

4th, is thr a need for a car here, in teeny weeny S’pore? haha.. I mean, com’on… Singapore is so well-connected with an efficient and effective public transport system… *I’ve got this fren working in LTA, so gonna say some gd things! :þ* but I mean it la… it’s really ez to get to most plcs in S’pore using the public transport system, and even if buses, MRTs or LRTs dun take u whr u wanna go, all u hv to do is hold up ur hand by the roadside… ur frenly cabby will be thr in no time, whether he’s on the third or fourth lane or whether u r at a traffic junction/bz one-lane road or watever…those are minor problems…He’s responsible for providing gd svc alrite…! Like getting u whr u wanna get to in 5 mins and with an upset stomach from all the jerking or turning on the ‘ON CALL’ light when it’s near to the magical hour when Cinderella has to go…!?!?

Ok, I digress…

5th pt…hmm…this is a more emotional kind of reason… but I have seen people argue cuz of cars… like who should use the car within families? Who should pay for the petrol and how to calculate the usage? And usually, if a guy has a car, the gf probably would wan him to fetch her ard, but sometimes argument arises fr thr as well…refusal causes argument. And sometimes even, who should drive causes problems…within a couple if both can drive. Oh ya…and another one, the problem of asking for directions and reading maps… sometimes tt causes unhappiness as well… I know this is a feeble attempt to make up the number to 5 but it’s really a problem if u do give it some tot… although such incidents dun cause very much problems between people but life is tough enuff rite? Y add on more when u can live simply?

Ok, on to the pros…I like this better… positive things are always easier to tell, isn’t it?

1st reason I gave him was…it wld be easier for him to jio char bohs… :þ haha.. I dun mean girls r materialistic…I mean of cuz thr r some who r but not all… but it’s like u imagine a scenario, a guy asks u out and arranges to meet u in town like 6.30pm…whereas another one asks u out and arranges to pick u up at your void deck at the same time… which one wld u be more impressed with? I dun even hv to go into the car yet… haha… I mean if u hv to get to town at 6.30pm, u wld hv to rush like mad and not hv enuff time to doll up properly…and might still run late! Haha.. but mtg at 6.30pm at the void deck gives more time… ya? BULLSHIT! Hmm…I juz tink it’s easier to get a girl to go out if u have a car to fetch her la… oh..i know, another example, like u ask a girl out at the last min and say u r waiting downstairs oredi, it’s more possible that she’ll come out rite? But I tink this wld appeal to him cuz he’s single and looking to settling down… haha… no matter how stupid my explanations r, the moment he saw the first line of this para, I bet he’s off to the showroom oredi! :þ haha…

2nd, Convenience is a major factor in the decision to purchase a car. I agree. U can do last-min-anything if u have a car…whereas if u do not, it’s always tougher cuz at peak hours, it might be difficult to get a cab even… Convenience oso comes in form of getting to and fro office at ur own time, no waiting for public transports, squeezing in crowded buses… you can even steal more time for slp in the morning…

3rd, Face. Period. Many people see cars as a symbol of success, personal achievement. Cuz in S’pore, it’s relatively more difficult to own a car cuz you got to get married to the car via COE and tt cost half ur fortune. Once you own a car, you feel good. Driving it along the road is like sticking gold onto your face.. You are showing that you have made it… haha… this is even worse than Pt 5 of the cons.. :þ

4th, Money… and one of the most important factor of all! The car prices are at its lowest at the moment… ppl are rushing to the showrooms like thr’s no tomorrow… $55k for a Toyota Vios E, $54k for a Nissan Sunny. Ain’t it fantastic? Finally I can own a car too? NO, not really… I dun even hv a license.. :þ The very low prices of cars are luring many people to make the commitment to buy the cars now… And as the sales engineer I met at the Toyota showroom said and I agreed, the demands for COE will definitely raise cuz of the strong demand for cars generated by the low cost of current COES and thus, by laws of supply and demand…the pricing of COEs will definitely go up due to supply < demand. So if customers wanna lock in the prices for their cars, they hv to commit now. And he oso warned that prices can rise anytime. Is that a gimmick or truth? This, I can’t be sure…

5th, it’s a personal reason and I tink it’s the most impt reason that I’m going to list for my fren. It’s cuz u wan a car and would like to own one either now or in future. I mean..seriously…do wat u wanna do. Follow ur heart. If you decide to get a car, get it! I’m sure other things will work out by themselves. Money can be saved again for investment purposes, for future planning and as cash reserves. Extra expenses can be kept to minimum without sacrificing time spent with your frens and loved ones, I’m sure u can balance tt out. No sweat! Ya? So…go ahead…follow whr your heart desires…

So now…I have completed my assignment for the nite.. and it’s late… Tomorrow will be another ful day of fighting the Z monster… :(

But I’m pleased with my work… haha…so full of crap! But it’s fun for both readers and me. dun take it too seriously… read as reference only. If u got other ideas for the decision, pls feel free to add on in the comments. Nitez, guys…and gals.. :)

Jolin's Song... 倒带

This is one very nice and meaningful song which i enjoy...it's not a very new song... One that Niqin likes too! :)

Why do sad love songs touch people more often...?

But why is it said that only the best authors can write about true happiness and make the readers feel it...?

Why? Anyone wanna have a shot at this? :þ

“Letting them into your weird little world, that’s intimacy” (Good Will Hunting, 1997)

Hello…was quite a good wkend…how was urs? Had rest on sat, din go out at all. It’s like hibernating! Haha…had not felt good enuff to go out oso…and had a good show on hand to watch… nothing seemed to be able to lure me out except food..OPPS! Major Gluttony! haha… ok, show was Good Will Hunting, I know it’s like an old show, but I tink it’s real gd now that i have watched it! I din catch it when it was showing in theatres…and I din even know I missed a good show! Thankfully a colleague lent it to me recently… the dvd version…else I wld have missed a damn (pardon me! :þ) good show and I wldn’t even know! GOSH! TT'S REGRET! :þ

Maybe I’ll leave some quotes here…the reason y I was so impressed by the show…and I cried at a few points in the show too, it’s like..wat they are saying is so true… sad but true..

Come to tink of it, recently, I’ve been easy to be touched to tears huh….? Weird… :(

"You're not perfect, sport. And let me save you the suspense. This girl you met, she isn't perfect either. But the question is: whether or not you're perfect for each other. That's the whole deal. That's what intimacy is all about."

"You'll never have that kind of relationship in a world where you're always afraid to take the 1st step because all you see is every negative thing 10 miles down the road."

"You'll have bad times, but they'll always wake you up to the good stuff you weren't paying attention to."


"If I asked you about love, you'd probably quote me a sonnet. But you've never looked at a woman and been totally vulnerable, known someone that could level you with her eyes. Feeling like God put an angel on Earth just for you, could rescue you from the depths of Hell. And you wouldn't know what it's like to be her angel. To have that love for her, to be there forever, through anything, through cancer. And you wouldn't know about sleeping, sitting up in the hospital room for two months, holding her hand, because the doctors could see in your eyes, that the term, visiting hours, don't apply to you. You don't know about real loss, 'cause it only occurs when you've loved something more than you love yourself."

"No, I'm not kiddin' you, Will. That's why I'm not talkin' right now about some girl I saw at a bar twenty years ago and how I always regretted not going over and talking to her.I don't regret the 18 years I was married to Nancy. I don't regret the six years I had to give up counseling when she got sick. And I don't regret the last years when she got really sick. And I sure as hell don't regret missin' the damn game. That's regret."

"I was on this plane once and the captain goes over on the announcements and he's talking about we're cruising at 30,000 feet and stuff so he puts the mic down and he forgets to turn it off. So he says 'you know what I really need is a cup of coffee and a blow job.' so the stewardess from the back of the plane fucken runs up to the front to tell him the mic's still on and this guy yells after her 'Hey, toots! Don't forget the coffee!"

Ok, the last one is a joke from the movie…was quite funny, isn’t it? haha...

Well, tink the movie did serve to remind me wat love and relationship is really abt…and more generally, wat life is about... hv to remember them though…I tink I get unrealistic whenever I get into a rs again…writing them in a blog serves the purpose…can refer back anytime! Blogging about it also allows me to share wif u guys abt the movie…and to remind u guys of wat life, love and relationships is all about…

Nobody’s perfect…I am not perfect, I prob make much more mistakes than most people…but I can see myself maturing and improving wif every relationships I had…I guess I shld be getting better? But I’m afraid that maybe I have never ever given myself away yet…like really all of me…? I’m not sure…the part about ‘loving someone more than yourself’ and I’m not even sure if I’m capable of such love?

We’ll see… :)

An all-time fav quote of mine…

"The greatest thing you'll ever learn is just to love, and be loved in return!"
- Moulin Rouge

Mood of the day: Feeling lousy.. | 我只是俗世里的一颗灰尘... Continued...

Hey all...I'm feeling better..in case thr's anyone who's concerned.. haha... NO ONE? oh no...i'm so unpopular... :( nm...i shall pretend that lots of ppl read my blog and R concerned abt me.... :þ

hmm...things r starting to look better...i'm not as unhappy anymore..even the sky's clearing...!

Still feel very small in the world...like my title implies... i am but a little speck of dust....so i shall move wif the flow of the wind, i guess... till i land on a suitable ground that will hold me tightly and not allow me to fly off again...or entice me enuff tt i wldn't even wanna fly off again.... WAH...seems abit dreamy today...can write such things..haha... but sounds nice though...i'm amazed by myself! :)

Oh ya...I tink another reason y i was alittle depressed was cuz i had v little carbo...haha.. i read somewhr tt carbo actually makes ppl happy...oh wait...i tink i din read tt, I learnt it from my trainer during a recent course i attended, about brain... haha... interesting huh? It's called brainpower, about how to maximise potential of brain and mind-mapping.. did i write abt tt oredi? haha...i'm getting old...forgot liao..need to check.........*bz flipping thru pgs...* oh, i hvn't...ok, anywayz, most significant thing i learnt during the course is JUGGLING... haha..funny rite? but it's to illustrate a concept that he taught us how to juggle but it was fun..and injecting fun and games into learning helps participants retain the knowledge better.

But anywayz...last thing he touched on was brain food. And to learn well, we need to be in the appropriate mood...that is relaxed and happy... and carbo when digested, helps the release of something in the body which makes ppl happy... complex? i tink it's cuz i dun explain well... :þ well...if u r interested...juz join the course?

Trainer was Mr Tan Kwan Liang, founder of Mind Sports Organisation Pte Ltd... hmm...he's oso Licensed Buzan Instructor, a Certified Jensen Brain-compatible Learning Practioner and a Neuro-Linguistic Programming Practitioner. Pretty Impressive ya? Int, give me your email and i'll mail you his email add maybe? i tink shldn't juz post on my blog like tt... :þ Though he might love the publicity...

I've always pride myself as someone who can be friends after a relationship ended... but i tink as i grew older, i find it hard to let go of things... thos rs tt ended long ago were fine... but recent ones...i find it hard to let go of the unhappiness...thus it wld be hard to hv a friendship which is pure...wld prob involve some negative feelings...so i prob shldn't keep in contact for a while... and let my tots turn to happy ones first..ya? :)

Now listening to some Mp3s... nice songs... sweet songs... songs like "smtg stupid", "I've finally found someone", "if you're not the one", "love me"... hah... some sad, some happy but all love songs... anyway, which songs r not abt love these days...? it's the most sellable in the music industry, maybe juz next to S*x lor... the latter more crude... :(

Haha...i'm like juz writing watever comes to mind...abit funny...isn't it? writing out my tots, baring my heart for all to see in the whole WWW! amazing!

Time to work...abit full now...might fall aslp..haha.. :þ

Mood of the day: Feeling lousy.. | 我只是俗世里的一颗灰尘...

Have been feeling rather lousy whole day, tink was since yest...or was it day before yest?

Tink too many happenings recently... tsunamis, deaths, ex getting attached again...v depressing...

now I am at work...not so possible to write... but will try to write tonite...but which is also quite difficult...gotta slp early...

Will try... but juz wan to write tt i am feeling lousy... need some sympathy... no la... juz to record here..i tink...tt's all...

somehow i tink a few ppl ard me oso feeling quite crappy recently... is it the trend or wat?

A song I like... By Sun Yan Zi

This is really a v beautiful song... Yanzi's always very gd, I tried singing this song last nite at KTV, not gd at it yet...will work at it...

For those who can't really understand the lyrics...the song is describing a couple who still love each other but had broke up. Or maybe it's juz the singer who tinks she has made a mistake by breaking up...? Remembering the things that she liked about the guy, and waiting for the guy to come back... And lamenting that perhaps Heaven is testing their love...

That's as gd as my translation skills can get...haha...

Listen to it if possible, you would agree that it's beautiful...
Download it at http://www.soundbuzz.com/singnet/ArtistDisplay.aspx?Albumid=22372540833141508945715955705542529261316907

Perhaps it's also a reminder that it's important to treasure wat u have while u have it and not when u hv lost it...

莫非这是上天善意的安排 好让心更坚定 彼此更接近 真爱

The MEN in My Life! (Part 1)

Wah.... u must be tinking... this is going to be interesting... Qin gg to write abt the men in her life wor... Since when did she start dating? How many were thr? Wat kinds were thr? Tall? Dark? Handsome? Haha…None of the above? :þ

Well...first thr's my father...haha...if I were to write abt the MEN, of cuz my father wld be the first I should write abt wat…tt’s the first man I know of ok…!

No lah... i'm not gg to write abt my father... but i tink one impt man in my life now is a little one... my nephew... i tink i used to not like kids tt much...cuz the oldest nephew v notty...quite spoilt since he was the only kid around initially...and all attention was on him so he was kinda pampered... but this nephew i am toking abt is the second one, his name is Ronn. No, it's not a typo... my sis added an extra N to make it special... interesting things parents do nowadays.. :þ

Anywayz...he's real cute...i dunno, but it's hard for me to get angry at him somehow... tink it's his adorable face! And his cute little smiles..! Although now he's becoming more and more mischievous, I still tink he’s so lovable!




Some pics of him…he’s rather handsome, isn’t he? :) Takes after me…? hahah… not even my son… but he’s got eyelashes tt goes on forever…smtg tt most girls wld DIE/KILL for…. Haha… One day I’m gonna chop them all off while he’s slpg… Opps…!! :þ

Oso from him, I have learnt to appreciate wat kids are like and how kids behave and maybe y they behave in a certain way… I also learnt to give them space to learn in their own ways…to be creative and imaginative… not to restrict them wif wat’s the ‘correct’ or ‘wrong’ way to do smtg… In the process, I tink I have oso matured.. and can now really understand that everyone is different and unique in their own ways…

Seeing him grow up is quite amazing… the speed that kids grasp new ideas is brilliant… and I tink esp kids nowadays, maybe due to the kind of milk powder they were fed, really hv the ability to learn new things fast and then apply it in their own ways… haha… and seeing him play sometimes make me happy…the way kids r so innocent makes ppl smile from the inside of their hearts… so absolutely charming…

He can be so funny at times… Totally into spiderman, he’s always striking the pose where spiderman throws his web, when he feels threatened by people… like when I sort of scold him when he doesn’t finish his food even after one hr…he wld strike tt pose! Haha… I have learnt t strike it back at him! And his eyes wld light up, like he’s found a comrade! :þ hahahha… Anywayz… he oso tinks that he’s DASH in incredibles…and he call his dad, the Papa aka Mr Incredibles in the incredibles, his mum is the jiejie aka Violet in the incredibles and my mother, his grandmother is the mummy aka Elastic Girl in incredibles …? *I have been fighting for the role of Jack Jack but he refuses to give it to me! DAMN :þ* Hmm…well, actually my mother has a double identity… she’s oso batman! Haha…wonder how she change sex though… :þ tt’s my nephew and his imagination… and the MOST impt man in my life now!

I love him and he’s my MAN of the MOMENT! :)

P/S: Sometimes I’m tinking, if my kid happens to resemble more of my first nephew than my second one, wat wld I do? I always shiver at tt tot! :þ If I have a similar kid as Ronn…I prob wld love him juz as much! But I guess my kid wld probs be as SWEET as me! :)

Haha...I’m sure my frens will all agree wholeheartedly! :þ i.e. if they haven't oredi rushed to the toilets... to puke... hahah... :þ sorry guys, u know how thick-skinned i am most of the time...! :)

To be continued…

Interim Blog..

I tink i ought to account for my disappearance for past few days... since last blog... 29th dec was last one, so i guess everyone shld know tt festive season, everyone's rather bz la...i'm not spared though now i can't recount wat i did exactly... but was bz la! NYE was spent at Velvet...nice plc, nice seats, nice crowd...tink i am bowled over by it liao... might be appearing thr more often from now on....

Ok...then directly after NY comes my gd fren's wedding on 2nd Jan, she made us all extra bz during this festive season man! i was one of the jie meis... so had to reach extra early in the morning to plan the torturing of the groom and his xiong dis... haha... tt wld be discussed in details in due course, tink tml if i hv time during work.. :þ then whole day was gone, 3rd Jan was recovery... so tt's y i only wrote today... I am forgivable la... :)

anywayz...tink i hv gotten the hang of blogging again... shld be writing many many soon.... watch out for more.... more... more..... * in manner of Lady Marmalade*

Fav Song of the moment: The Reason...wish someone wld teach me how to put songs onto my blog.... so any kind soul? :)