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Wednesday, September 30, 2009

Continuation of the Balls Story

If you are my friend on facebook...then you would remember...a while ago, i was complaining about having too many balls to juggle...

i remember it was quite amusing...

1st i was juggling..then i wanted to quit playing with balls... then i posted, balls were all over the floor...

Now I have left them there... yesterday I sort of continued the story of the balls...

I was telling my colleague about the above... then i said now i leave the balls on the floor...and then once in a while, i picked 1 of them up...take a look..then put it back on the floor... she said the CEO of Pepsi said somethhing similar before..haha...so i'm actually quite a wise person.. =þ

then later yesterday night...the story came up again..this time more funny...

I was discussing with my friend about this...and we were saying...cuz the balls were all over the floor...some innocent person might pass by and pick 1 of them up to admire...while admiring the pretty coating start to melt and shit pours out all over the hands and now he stinks! got to clear the shit...hahaha..

hmm..get the idea?

Tuesday, September 22, 2009

An egg aspiring to be coffee....

At work i have to check mails from several email accounts every morning and this morning I got an email that din seemed like query but I peeped in nonetheless...and i think it's a nice surprise....although I think I am now too tired to try to change anything, not myself, not my surroundings, not anyone around me and definitely not the world... my end goal is still making world a better place, very far goal...closer to me, i hope to be able to remain resilient, understand how human think and thus be able to support those around me through their life trials...

how am i able to do that when I cannot support myself...?

Anyway here's the surprise find in the email this morning...timely, god-sent?
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Carrots, Eggs & Coffee

A carrot, an egg, and a cup of coffee... You will never look at a cup of coffee the same way again.

A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up.. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved, a new one arose.

Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to boil. In the first she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil; without saying a word.

In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl. Turning to her daughter, she asked, ' Tell me what you see.'

'Carrots, eggs, and coffee,' she replied.

Her mother brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. The mother then asked the daughter to take an egg and break it.. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard boiled egg.

Finally, the mother asked the daughter to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled as she tasted its rich aroma. The daughter then asked, 'What does it mean , mother?'

Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity: boiling water. Each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong, hard, and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior, but after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened. The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water.

'Which are you?' she asked her daughter. 'When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?

Think of this: Which am I? Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?

Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff ? Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and hardened heart?

Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you. When the hour is the darkest and trials are their greatest do you elevate yourself to another level? How do you handle adversity? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?

May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human and enough hope to make you happy..

The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way. The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past; you can't go forward in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.

When you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling.

Live your life so at the end, you're the one who is smiling and everyone around you is crying.

You might want to send this message to those people who mean something to you (I JUST DID); to those who have touched your life in one way or another; to those who make you smile when you really need it; to those who make you see the brighter side of things when you are really down; to those whose friendship you appreciate; to those who are so meaningful in your life.

May we all be COFFEE!!!!!
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Now....

I just want to be Jenny

I want to throw tantrums, not care about what makes people happy or sad or angry or miserable...

I want to rest when I want to rest, work when I want to work, play when I want to play...

Can I actually do that?

Monday, September 14, 2009

resilience...and smoothening of mood - something i must learn for the good of myself...

http://ucsfhr.ucsf.edu/index.php/assist/article/a-personal-strategy-for-engaging-and-building-your-resilience/

Tuesday, September 08, 2009

maybe i dun seek help v often cuz it takes trust to wan to get help fr certain people...?

Monday, September 07, 2009

How to ask for help!

From a webpage i got when i goggled 'asking for help' and found very useful.

i guess...my nature is such that i dun like to bother others by asking for their help. i tend to want to help others than to ask for help. but this has opened my eyes.

but is it really true???

How To Ask For Help

I did an interview with writer Janene Mascerella for The Tyra Banks Show on How To Ask For Help.

Some of us find it easy to ask for help from others. But for many, asking for help is NOT an easy thing to do.

Do these myths keep you stuck?

Myth: It makes us look vulnerable.
Truth: Asking for help creates an atmosphere of empowerment. It communicates to others that, while you may not have the answers, you are willing to find them and make things better.

Myth: Holding things in and keeping personal issues under wraps keeps us secure.
Truth: In reality, not allowing yourself to be "known" keeps you socially isolated, and therefore, insecure. When you seek the counsel of others, you'll not only connect with them, but you'll also realize that you're not alone in your struggle.

Myth: It bother others.
Truth: Doing it all can do you in. Being too self-sufficient can create stress levels that tip your physical, emotional and spiritual scales.

Myth: Highly successful people never ask for help.
Truth: Actually, successful individuals will tell you that the key to success is knowing your strengths and weaknesses. Learning how to delegate, asking for help and letting others show you the way are part of the plan. Successful people are driven and motivated -- and when the going gets tough, the tough ask for help!

Myth: I am a giver. I don't like when others help me.
Truth: Get over it. With practice, you'll learn to be comfortable when others help you. And before long, you'll come to realize that you deserve a helping hand every now and then.

Remember:

Have realistic expectations for the kind of help you are seeking

Express your needs simply and clearly

Let others know you are there to help them as well

Praise your pals for their assistance and pat yourself for asking for help

ramblings...

i wonder how to calm down nerves and get on to do real work...

stress and over-worrying often take the time away from the doing...

better planning? then again...u can only plan for so much...changes pop up at every corner.

busy week ahead...look out!

Tuesday, September 01, 2009

Post-Hols blues...

can't summon energy to put into work yet... i tink the hols was too tiring and hectic... :(

HELP!! I got loads of work lor.....

Please give me strength to pull through....