Blogging...

Blogging is so common nowadays..almost everyone who is internet savvy prob have tried writing blogs...and might still be doing so... some might hv given up cuz got bored or smtg...

blogs r writings which expresses personal opinions/views...but made public..it's like a diary tt's allowed to be viewed by all...therefore caution should be exercised when writing them even though it's supposed to be personal opinion..isn't it?

for eg. those 2 bloggers who were arrested for writing some entries which the authorities tot might cause racial disharmony... so probably bloggers got to realise tt their PERSONAL opinions r not so private and confidential on the internet...

and if u keep up wif news abt bloggers... normally when a blogger does smtg different or outrageous, the whole blogging community wld know...egs. are xiaxue, mr brown, mr miyage and the infamous sarongpartygirl... they have gained such popularity and attract so much attention tt even newspapers are reporting on them as well...

Therefore writing blogs prob shld really be done wif more caution... it sometimes spoils relationships/friendships too...since different ppl will interpret diff things in a diff light...it's difficult to control the kind of impact ur blog might hv on others... and how far ur reach is..maybe even overseas? or it might land in the hands of the person concerned...so if u r bitching abt ur boss or someone impt...u hv to be prepared for the consequences... haha...

well...juz smtg i fet like writing...

No way...I'm taking it lying down... *fuming*

ok...i'm not as mad as i was yesterday...tt's y i waited till today to write this blog..so words won't be too emotionally charged..nonetheless i still have to write it down here...

there is this blog i visit everyday...one by my bf's fren. i got to know her thru my bf of cuz. mostly toked to her online... got along wif her pretty well, until yesterday.

Apparrently she had a conversation wif my bf and decided to write a blog about the conversation...(she knows i read her blog). it was about diamonds and rings...

i was fuming by the time i finished the blog entry. firstly was disappointed that a person whom i tot is a fren wrote about me (though she din mention my name, she mentioned my bf's initials...not tt i am afraid anyone wld recognise it's me she's writing about anywayz...) in such bad light... I was also unhappy wif some things she claimed my bf was feeling. She said he was stressed, and feeling dejected and miserable about the high requirements i set for the proposal ring. And tt i shld buy him a nice present, for eg. ipod nano or ps2/3 for christmas in exchange for tt ring i wan.

Of cuz first tot was to confront my bf...i directed him to the blog entry by the fren...as he read, he was shocked as well...he denied that he said or conveyed those feelings at all during the conversation. He was only joking wif her, about me having high requirements regarding the engagement ring we always toked abt. We had toked abt it, so if he had tot it's really high standards, he wld hv told me directly...anywayz...during our discussions, we had also adjusted our own expectations... I sent him websites which toks abt diamonds so he can know wat i wanted and also learn more abt diamonds so he can make educated choices when he tinks it's time to. it has never been an issue so big.

Side issues which i hv to clarify...i told him some of the things i wld like to hv in the ring cuz i know how clueless he is in this area...and i guess most guys will be disappointed if their gfs dun like the rings during proposal. he has frens who bring their gf to choose the design somemore. i din wan tt...but knowing some guidelines wld be useful for him. I mean i prob will like the ring he were to give me...juz tt if he knows wat i wan...and we can discuss abt such things, isn't it better? AND i am not forcing him to DIE DIE hv to buy the best diamond... I gave him some idea of wat i wan...and i din even ask for 1 carat diamonds..not colour D diamonds or an IF one... wat i told him was, in his opinion and mine, reasonable.

After he convinced me that he did not mean those things and was only joking, he went to tell her that those things she wrote was not wat he meant...and that the content in tt blog might make me look bad... she told him she was sorry. But tt's abt all she did yesterday. i asked my bf y she din come tell me tt she's sorry herself...he said, oh maybe she's bz...and i accepted tt at tt time...but now on hindsight...if she was bz, how come she can tok to my bf but not me.. and sorry is juz a 5 letter word...ya?

Anywayz, i left 2 tags on her blog, telling her tt wat she said my bf felt was all untrue and tt juz like she liked gucci bags, i would like a nice proposal ring fr my bf and she was making it sound like a sin in her blog. There was space constraint in tag boards so i cldn't explain the whole idea, but wat i was trying to say is, everyone has their own preference abt diff things. she likes gucci bags but i dun care abt branded stuff. However my engagement ring is important to me, thus i wan smtg tt i prob will like...and i know my bf will wan me to like it too.

Even though she had my msn contact, hp number and wat-nots...she did not try to contact me at all yesterday...

This morning...i had another blog abt me...i am starting to feel 'honoured' being the subject of her blog... *roll eyes* She said she was disappointed wif my reaction to her blog and tt she din say it's a sin. Tt i got all defensive... EXCUSE ME! she said i had so HIGH expectations of the proposal ring tt my bf was STRESSED, DEJECTED and MISERABLE and i am supposed to be unaffected? oh com'on... tink abt how anyone wld feel lor...and wat's worse is none of it is true... :(

I tot my reaction was oredi mild...someone else might hv called her to scold her or launch an attack in her msn chat? i merely sent 2 tags...teling the truth and of wat i felt she was doing.

Then she went on to try to clarify tt she tinks my bf is dejected and all cuz of his own limitations and not cuz of my requirements... but my bf said v clearly to me, he was NOT AT ALL dejected or stuff...She claimed tt she meant the blog to be light-hearted...THANKS. but it juz wasn't tt light for me...

Anywayz...the part which i tot was particularly annoying was tt she said she was simple and would have been happy wif juz a diamond ring worth $1-2k from her bf. Well, tt's her lor. But this is only one aspect she's comparing...if she wans other things like branded bags...of cuz can't expect an expensive ring unless it's a golden tortoise lor. For me, i wan a nice diamond, i dun care abt the price...not tt i wan my bf to spend more than $3k though...and i believe mostly in value..if he cld get a diamond tt satisfies my requirement...but priced at $1k or so... i wld be MOST happy...and i dun go for branded bags.. By saying she was simple and be elated wif a $1-2k ring...she was implying i am materialistic? *roll eyes big time*

Last of all, as one of my fren, whom i confided in, said... proposal ring is smtg tt concerns only the couple...who did this girl tink she was and to suggest wat gift the gf shld get for the bf? Incidentally, i only asked my fren to visit the blog, after she read, she told me the above before i said anything...so to be sure, i wasn't the only one who wld be angered by this blog she wrote...

And a v final note, i do not have to do anything or buy my bf anything in exchange for the ring. He loves me enuff to not expect anything from me...at least not in EXCHANGE for the ring... *eyes drop out cuz roll too much*

Queen Bee? *roll eyes*

Referring to this blog by my friend honeylemon - R's Guide on How to Spot a Queen Bee...i find it total rubbish!

haha...wat Queen Bee? It's similar to guys who call girls they can't get to be their gfs, watever ugly names like bitches, sluts, etc....sour grapes lor! :þ

i mean being beautiful isn't a choice, it's given by powers above...And people, being people - superficial and impressionable, tend to admire beatiful things/beings... And if you admire something, but does not win the admiration back...u juz got to accept it ya? No one can return all admiration they receive lor...most people concentrate on 1 person, others can only be friends...perhaps..

I tink the author of the Guide must have suffered under some women, to write such a guide...but he displayed too much bias against women to write a decent piece...

I dunno how he comes to the conclusion tt those women are indeed making use of the men! Did any one of them actually told him tt? That they enjoy using the men, either for company, as flirt objects, or targets for gift-extortion? The key word here is USE? Some women might not be conscious of wat control they have...over the men! Some might merely be looking for friends BUT the men tink otherwise? so wat's the woman to do? Have less friends, juz cuz she's beautiful, well-dressed, eloquent? well, tt's unfair!

Gifts are exactly that, they are given...I dunno wat the author wans the woman to do? reject the gifts? I mean she could reject but the author wld then say she's being hypocratical by first claiming that she doesn't wan it, but wait for the man to INSIST that she keep the gift, so she wldn't feel she owe the man anything or asked for the gifts...It's definitely a lose-lose situation for the woman, isn't it? Accept and she's materialistic, Reject and she's manipulative? oh man! Why can't gifts be given graciously and accepted graciously..i feel gifts are like compliments, they should juz be accepted graciously... :)

If the pc was written with more balance, it would have noted that women, being the emotional creatures of the species, are the weaker gender... I feel women might sometimes not be aware of the power they hv over the men, and some of these women, might not even be aware of their own beauty due to some reality distortion disorder actually...let alone desire to control men. Like how super-thin women might sometimes 'see' a fat body which makes them tink they still should starve themselves. *scary*

My views are that the women might sometimes desire company of friends, instead of wat the men tinks. Some women are smart enough to emphasize enuff that the rs is that of only friends... While another grp of women might hv suffered in the hands of men who abused them, manipulated them, such that they grew weak/fearful and unable to commit into a full rs...and such that they only seek close contact but not full commitment. They wan to feel loved yet not to give, though it's also a selfish act, it's not as bad as described in the guide...they do not seek to manipulate, that might happend as a side-effect.

And sometimes i feel the manipulations are all in the minds of the men. As the thoughts of getting together wif the women are in the minds as well. I reckon the men might have been told by the women that they are unsure of getting into another rs, unable to commit again...but the men decide to take the chance and/or tink they have the power to make the women change her mind...and in the case of an attached-with-abusive-bf case, the drones (men under control of Queen Bee) might feel they are able to win the women over/ get the women out of the hopeless rs. Aren't all these in the minds of only the men? When all the woman did was seeking company of FRIENDS, in moments of weakness/despair...

And unless the women say out bluntly that I wan the GUCCI/LV/etc bag from you (drone), how can it be said that she's trying to con the men in buying her gifts? She probably mentioned that she liked something which, if you noticed, most women do! Women discuss abt things that they like...wat they see...wat they experienced...almost everything...tt's y it's said that women say a million words a day while men only say one-tenth of tt...And juz as they say they love the chocolate cake, doesn't mean they wan another piece of it, well...they might wan it BUT cuz of the diet, they can't hv it! People learn the meaning of constraints...cuz of limited resource... But if it's given as a gift, how can anyone reject?

Another area I find unbelieveable is the part about these Queen Bees pulling away when the drones mentioned the possiblity of rs...I perfectly understand y the women will do that!! Cuz wat they wanted in the very beginning is just friendship. Pure friendship...

And also, i feel in the guise of the 'Queen Bee', most women are juz unable to get over past rs, still looking for the right one..etc...and not seeking to manipulate..

I believe my discussion of the rebuttals for Queen Bee is not really complete but you should get an idea of how the 'truth' presented in the guide might not be the truth at all...

And although as a matter of fact, I agree that there are some women who are truly manipulative too...i dun tink it's as high percentage as wat the author mentioned...

Btw, there are male equivalents as well...Y dun we call them King Fly? haha... :þ

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Yellow Pendulum

I wanna try posting a blog from photobucket itself. let's see if this works! :)

Anywayz, this is one of the earrings i made and posted on my other website...feel free to visit! :)

Afternote: I had to edit from blogspot after i used photobucket to post this blog cuz the spacing is too wide. I guess the feature from photobucket is useful only if you are not particular abt spacing then. :) And the website is juz a click away...look for it on the right.. :)

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THE Holidays...

Haven't written for so long... went on course for 2 days before i embark on my 9 days long rest from work! had tot it wld be damn shiok...

BUT i'm abit wrong... feel stressed instead...keep tinking abt how sian i will be when i get back to office on monday... :(

Trip to KL was rather nice...weather was gd, except last day thr...did some shopping, some walking ard... went to zouk KL but was closed! :'( was a Sunday...and they are only opened fr tue to sat... so now i know! And i also got to know tt the halloween party was held on sat... we were oredi in KL but was too tired to go down zouk on sun! :( sigh...so we missed like one of the fun-est parties held in Zouk...!! :( bad timing...

right after i get back from KL, i started getting stressed abt work and bf kept reminding me not to tink abt work...juz enjoy the leave first...wait till sunday then worry la... but i dunno y...maybe cuz i nvr been away fr work for such a long period...am starting to get worried abt how things might be diff when i get back...even though i dun tink anyone's really working this wk, cuz of the 2 PHs on tue and thu...i tink the PHs really spoil any momentum...work 1 day, stop 1 day..how to work properly??

oso got many frens who either work on the PHs...or leave early since bosses are not ard... interesting...

had been so bz these few days... mon nite salsa party at a fren's plc. really nice plc but he live alone...wonder if he sometimes wish he had someone to share it wif... tue, mahjong whole day... wed, movie, then games at dw's frens' plc, played this game called guessture! haha...had lotsa fun...it's like charades...but there's this thing which keeps the timing for each word to be guessed...total of 4 words per turn. thu, chocolate fondue at my fren, PS's plc...i oso baked a cheesecake and he made onion soup...weird combi of food really! haha...but still all yummy... also had some vodka neat. hmm...some vodka fr poland which is supposed to be v smooth.

fr my recent drinking experiences, i realise tt i dun like drinking as much as i did in the past.. i used to enjoy the drinks...now i'm juz drinking lor... and after i drink, i sometimes get stomache...maybe tt's another reason y i dun like to drink as much anymore... but i guess this is a gd thing... since drinking isn't the healthiest pastime i can have ya! ;)

tml dun feel like planning anything, feel like spending some time wif myself..maybe make earrings, maybe read a book...juz some personal time. at nite, might go velvet...or some club...not sure yet...

and then...as i write...i realise tt time is running out...my wk long holiday is almost over... :( so sad...

OKOK...and i'm going to update pics on my other blog...did a few earrings and took their pics but juz nvr got ard to putting up their pics leh... did 1 really nice pair for ame...i liked them and hope she does too! in fact it was the only pair wif the glass beads... i cldn't find other nice ones...and i gave them to her one!!! :þ