Queen Bee? *roll eyes*

Referring to this blog by my friend honeylemon - R's Guide on How to Spot a Queen Bee...i find it total rubbish!

haha...wat Queen Bee? It's similar to guys who call girls they can't get to be their gfs, watever ugly names like bitches, sluts, etc....sour grapes lor! :þ

i mean being beautiful isn't a choice, it's given by powers above...And people, being people - superficial and impressionable, tend to admire beatiful things/beings... And if you admire something, but does not win the admiration back...u juz got to accept it ya? No one can return all admiration they receive lor...most people concentrate on 1 person, others can only be friends...perhaps..

I tink the author of the Guide must have suffered under some women, to write such a guide...but he displayed too much bias against women to write a decent piece...

I dunno how he comes to the conclusion tt those women are indeed making use of the men! Did any one of them actually told him tt? That they enjoy using the men, either for company, as flirt objects, or targets for gift-extortion? The key word here is USE? Some women might not be conscious of wat control they have...over the men! Some might merely be looking for friends BUT the men tink otherwise? so wat's the woman to do? Have less friends, juz cuz she's beautiful, well-dressed, eloquent? well, tt's unfair!

Gifts are exactly that, they are given...I dunno wat the author wans the woman to do? reject the gifts? I mean she could reject but the author wld then say she's being hypocratical by first claiming that she doesn't wan it, but wait for the man to INSIST that she keep the gift, so she wldn't feel she owe the man anything or asked for the gifts...It's definitely a lose-lose situation for the woman, isn't it? Accept and she's materialistic, Reject and she's manipulative? oh man! Why can't gifts be given graciously and accepted graciously..i feel gifts are like compliments, they should juz be accepted graciously... :)

If the pc was written with more balance, it would have noted that women, being the emotional creatures of the species, are the weaker gender... I feel women might sometimes not be aware of the power they hv over the men, and some of these women, might not even be aware of their own beauty due to some reality distortion disorder actually...let alone desire to control men. Like how super-thin women might sometimes 'see' a fat body which makes them tink they still should starve themselves. *scary*

My views are that the women might sometimes desire company of friends, instead of wat the men tinks. Some women are smart enough to emphasize enuff that the rs is that of only friends... While another grp of women might hv suffered in the hands of men who abused them, manipulated them, such that they grew weak/fearful and unable to commit into a full rs...and such that they only seek close contact but not full commitment. They wan to feel loved yet not to give, though it's also a selfish act, it's not as bad as described in the guide...they do not seek to manipulate, that might happend as a side-effect.

And sometimes i feel the manipulations are all in the minds of the men. As the thoughts of getting together wif the women are in the minds as well. I reckon the men might have been told by the women that they are unsure of getting into another rs, unable to commit again...but the men decide to take the chance and/or tink they have the power to make the women change her mind...and in the case of an attached-with-abusive-bf case, the drones (men under control of Queen Bee) might feel they are able to win the women over/ get the women out of the hopeless rs. Aren't all these in the minds of only the men? When all the woman did was seeking company of FRIENDS, in moments of weakness/despair...

And unless the women say out bluntly that I wan the GUCCI/LV/etc bag from you (drone), how can it be said that she's trying to con the men in buying her gifts? She probably mentioned that she liked something which, if you noticed, most women do! Women discuss abt things that they like...wat they see...wat they experienced...almost everything...tt's y it's said that women say a million words a day while men only say one-tenth of tt...And juz as they say they love the chocolate cake, doesn't mean they wan another piece of it, well...they might wan it BUT cuz of the diet, they can't hv it! People learn the meaning of constraints...cuz of limited resource... But if it's given as a gift, how can anyone reject?

Another area I find unbelieveable is the part about these Queen Bees pulling away when the drones mentioned the possiblity of rs...I perfectly understand y the women will do that!! Cuz wat they wanted in the very beginning is just friendship. Pure friendship...

And also, i feel in the guise of the 'Queen Bee', most women are juz unable to get over past rs, still looking for the right one..etc...and not seeking to manipulate..

I believe my discussion of the rebuttals for Queen Bee is not really complete but you should get an idea of how the 'truth' presented in the guide might not be the truth at all...

And although as a matter of fact, I agree that there are some women who are truly manipulative too...i dun tink it's as high percentage as wat the author mentioned...

Btw, there are male equivalents as well...Y dun we call them King Fly? haha... :þ