according to my weather thingy at the right side...

82 degrees F = 28 degrees C... interesting rite? haha... =þ

quite bo liao....

mood been up and down recently...i attribute it to impending auntie visit...hope it will land soon so my mood will stabilise again...

that day i re-read the mars and venus book... abt the men r like rubber band and women r like wave theories...

it's mentioned that the emotions of women rises and falls like a wave...and the cycle averages out to be abt 28 days...which coincidentally is the length of the auntie cycle..haha..anyway i tink i prob din read it very carefully the last time cuz i can't rem the concepts... this time i guess it sticks more cuz it made more sense....

it's said tt if a woman felt negative feelings at any point of its wave when it is going up, it might not be expressed immediately...thus this is the time tt the woman feels gd and happy... only when the wave passes its crest...on the way down, will the woman feel all the negative emotions... becuz the book i was reading is abt how men and women interact...it is said that this is the time tt the woman will become emotional, and prone to want to talk. Since they are feeling negative, also prone to emotional outburst...(sometimes such negative emotions can be pented up ones from the past - like since childhood, growing up years, past rs. etc.). and if her man is able to support her effectively at this time...she still might feel upset...in fact she might feel even MORE upset....but that is so that she will reach the bottom sooner...once something reached the absolute bottom...the only way is up!

However, the scary thing facing men is that this emotional torment occurs over and over again. and the same issues will keep coming up... i know it sounds like a recurring nightmare...i wld tink so too... somehow emotions are juz erratic! so men go through this nightmare over and over again...reassuring their women over and over again...every month... giving them Tender Loving Care...if this is done..... the good news is...when the women finally feels securely and firmly assured in the love...the extent of the negative feelings decreases OR the journey down reaches its pit faster... that is eventually through hard work...men can be released from their 'pain'

i guess that is when love prevails...? Where giving of yourself selflessly pay off handsomely?

If you are a man and tinking women get the easy way out....i'm afriad not. man has his tendency to be like a rubber band...where after a period of loving, needs to have some time-out to take care of himself, do his own thing...men tend to act like a rubber band, i.e. when it is fully stretched (had his time and took care of himself, feeling energetic), it tends to bounce back with a great force, this is when a man is most capable of loving his woman! When it returns to a position where there is no tension...the man feels a lack of energy...had too much intimacy and losing himself....this is when he needs to pull away again and take care of himself...

this cycle of pulling away and bouncing back strikes fear in most women..esp those who had traumatic rs where they felt abandoned or neglected...or neglected by their parents when younger... she starts to feel insecure...y did the man change, did he stop loving her? did she do something wrong?

i believe awareness helps alot - when u know wat is happening, u dun feel the fear....instead u can be assured the love is still there and it's natural tendency for men and women to do their thing...their natural cycles..

i was toking to ukey and i tink i sprouted much nonsense which turn out to be a lot of truth..hahaha... =þ

sometimes people confuse trust and love with differences in opinion, ways of dealing wif issues, etc.

trust - for eg is not abt giving absolute freedom. preferring to be lazy and avoid confrontation. then saying it's cuz u trust ur partner. it's probably true tt u wld like to trust ur partner to do the right thing and wat if it happens tt he/she did not? wat will u do? continue to say u trust her to do the rite thing? how long can this 'trust' last?

anyway...i was juz discussing wif him..tt sometimes even if ur love is firm and ur trust is absolutely wif this person, u can still disagree wif the way something was handled - like a costly irrational purchase or an argument whr tempers were lost. it's actually wif this love tt the hurts can be mended...and the issues can be sorted out, whether compromise or agree to disagree.

i remember being told tt compromise is still not the best situation possible...let me check tml wat is the win-win situation... compromise is still a lose-lose situation... something i learnt in a conflict mgmt workshop...