some people believe that love should come naturally...
that's only half right...
the feeling of love should come naturally..ur intuition will guide you to who you love and have affinity with...
however...to stay in love, that doesn't come naturally...takes 2 people making the effort to understand each other and accept each other as themselves...that's hardly natural... some people can't even accept themselves...let alone another person who's not within control...
I think I tok much sense in the still of the night... haha....
that's only half right...
the feeling of love should come naturally..ur intuition will guide you to who you love and have affinity with...
however...to stay in love, that doesn't come naturally...takes 2 people making the effort to understand each other and accept each other as themselves...that's hardly natural... some people can't even accept themselves...let alone another person who's not within control...
I think I tok much sense in the still of the night... haha....
Nonsensical 芩 babbling sexily on and on @ 12/10/2008 01:11:00 AM
3 Sexy Soul(s) babbling:
At Thu Dec 11, 09:30:00 PM GMT+8,
Anonymous said…
I think luv is sometimes a decision, sometimes it just happens but either way, it means letting go of some personal control...and trusting that the other won't take advantage of it. But why does love also means some suffering ?
At Sat Dec 13, 01:22:00 AM GMT+8,
芩 said…
To fall in love is not a decision...it's very emotions-based.
To stay in love/in a relationship is a conscious decision...it is more rational...like learning to love the person and accepting the person...like learning how to love the person the way they can receive it as love...nothing like that happens by accident...
Suffering is how you perceive it..if you see the actions as loving and expressing the love for the other person and that you are willingly doing them for the person out of love...it would not be seen as a suffering...
Suffering only happens when you are resisting something...like resisting changes...resisting the person as he is...expecting something when you give of your love...
thus...it's a mindset...all these is easier said than done of cuz... with determination, i tink many has done that...those in happy fulfilling relationships have done that..mostly older couples...
People nowadays go for instant gratification...it's just a different world now...
At Sat Dec 13, 11:45:00 AM GMT+8,
Anonymous said…
I can see your point of view. Maybe it's just personal experience: letting go and falling in love is definitely emotions-based, but if I feel something for someone, I will be careful about putting my heart out there, at risk of being hurt, if I cannot see a possibility. I'd be scared of unrequited love. So instead, I might just decide to stay away and not let that initial feeling from developing further. May sound selfish, but thinking about it, maybe the next person for whom I'd have some feelings will be receptive and then, well, there is no love lost. Do I make sense ?
I do not really understand what you mean when you explain that "suffering only happens when you are resisting something..."
I smiled and nodded when you wrote: "People nowadays go for instant gratification...".
So true; it's like we want fulfillment at internet speed. But as the fulfillment is quick, the enjoyment of it is also shortlived.
So wrong, and such a waste of something beautiful: that of the slow discovery of the other. I think that skipping that is the cause of many relationship break-ups.
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