To wait or not to wait?
Hey all...today we are going to discuss the issue of 'to wait or not to wait'?
haha...well...I dunno...I personally dun like to wait..as mentioned in a v early post in this blog... cuz it's so irritating to wait for things to happen..so passive... i am more of proactive person in some aspects... will MAKE things happen many a times..., tink except work...haha.. :þ and it's not by choice la...
i make things happen in areas of my life, such as with regards to rs...perhaps...i am not afraid to tell someone i like him if i do like. or i do not hesitate to be nice if thr's a nice feeling... i am serious... *but tipsy at the moment as well* haha...
but i do realise tt thr are too many different kinds of people in this world, really had many experiences which reinforce this concept recently... too many different types of people... either we get along with some people and be tolerant of each other or juz not get along and distance fr each other... Cuz thr r so many different kinds...how to get along wif everyone?? i try...but tink it's not possible at all... somehow i tink if u do get along wif everyone...u might be labelled something by some people... like being hypocritic..cuz u try ur best to be nice, maybe?
anyway....i shldn't stray too far fr the main topic... it is to discuss waiting, isn't it?
Well, i have some probs wif this 'waiting' thingy recently... i found tt guys r not really willing to wait for things... thr's someone who likes me..but i am unable to commit at the moment, cuz of past rs...painful experiences...need some time to recover emotionally... I know he likes me alot.. but it's like i really can't promise a gd rs at the moment... and cuz of tt, i really really dun wan to commit to a bad rs.... i have told myself...i really wanna make the nx rs the v last one for me.. and as i said, i tink i need some time and is giving myself until jun 2005 to reach some conclusion... i oso need to tink over stuff... HOWEVER, this guy is not willing to wait...i know it's not entirely his fault...i know i haven't been v nice at times...totally not consistent... he has the right to do what he tinks is best for himself...
but i sort of feel the kind of reasons he is giving is juz not gd enuff. i juz get the feeling tt if u dun wanna make the effort to wait for smtg, it juz shows tt the thing is not worth enuff for u to wait lor...isn't it true? and since i am not worth it, in his eyes, i really shldn't bother much anymore...
am i too idealistic or wat? cuz i feel if u really do love someone, u wld be willing to do anything for tt person... and waiting is such a small thing.... is this true or is this juz bullshit?
anyway, wat's the hurry? is having someone by ur side so impt? is being attached so impt? is being single so unbearable? is being alone so shameful?
what is the real meaning of being in a rs? who really knows?
I am sometimes feeling the stress, i tink i have told some friends before... i have many friends who r getting married soon...some preparing for next yr... some r like getting proposals, applying for flats...
was toking to some frens juz now abt this issue actually... and i was tellin Amelia, tt i'm gg to stay wif her in future...apply flat wif her at 35 yrs old. or at least stay side by side... hv a campanion... haha...
i guess if i really do not find a person who can convince me tt he's the one, i'll juz not get married... though i am v v stressed at the moment...cuz of all the marriages.... BUT i know these things die down after a while... cuz i am at the age whr ppl get married... after this age, i guess the pressure shld ease off... :þ
I am so nonsensical tonite... haha... blabbling rubbish... dun mind me... i am tipsy... haha.. :þ
Nitez all...happy reading!
haha...well...I dunno...I personally dun like to wait..as mentioned in a v early post in this blog... cuz it's so irritating to wait for things to happen..so passive... i am more of proactive person in some aspects... will MAKE things happen many a times..., tink except work...haha.. :þ and it's not by choice la...
i make things happen in areas of my life, such as with regards to rs...perhaps...i am not afraid to tell someone i like him if i do like. or i do not hesitate to be nice if thr's a nice feeling... i am serious... *but tipsy at the moment as well* haha...
but i do realise tt thr are too many different kinds of people in this world, really had many experiences which reinforce this concept recently... too many different types of people... either we get along with some people and be tolerant of each other or juz not get along and distance fr each other... Cuz thr r so many different kinds...how to get along wif everyone?? i try...but tink it's not possible at all... somehow i tink if u do get along wif everyone...u might be labelled something by some people... like being hypocritic..cuz u try ur best to be nice, maybe?
anyway....i shldn't stray too far fr the main topic... it is to discuss waiting, isn't it?
Well, i have some probs wif this 'waiting' thingy recently... i found tt guys r not really willing to wait for things... thr's someone who likes me..but i am unable to commit at the moment, cuz of past rs...painful experiences...need some time to recover emotionally... I know he likes me alot.. but it's like i really can't promise a gd rs at the moment... and cuz of tt, i really really dun wan to commit to a bad rs.... i have told myself...i really wanna make the nx rs the v last one for me.. and as i said, i tink i need some time and is giving myself until jun 2005 to reach some conclusion... i oso need to tink over stuff... HOWEVER, this guy is not willing to wait...i know it's not entirely his fault...i know i haven't been v nice at times...totally not consistent... he has the right to do what he tinks is best for himself...
but i sort of feel the kind of reasons he is giving is juz not gd enuff. i juz get the feeling tt if u dun wanna make the effort to wait for smtg, it juz shows tt the thing is not worth enuff for u to wait lor...isn't it true? and since i am not worth it, in his eyes, i really shldn't bother much anymore...
am i too idealistic or wat? cuz i feel if u really do love someone, u wld be willing to do anything for tt person... and waiting is such a small thing.... is this true or is this juz bullshit?
anyway, wat's the hurry? is having someone by ur side so impt? is being attached so impt? is being single so unbearable? is being alone so shameful?
what is the real meaning of being in a rs? who really knows?
I am sometimes feeling the stress, i tink i have told some friends before... i have many friends who r getting married soon...some preparing for next yr... some r like getting proposals, applying for flats...
was toking to some frens juz now abt this issue actually... and i was tellin Amelia, tt i'm gg to stay wif her in future...apply flat wif her at 35 yrs old. or at least stay side by side... hv a campanion... haha...
i guess if i really do not find a person who can convince me tt he's the one, i'll juz not get married... though i am v v stressed at the moment...cuz of all the marriages.... BUT i know these things die down after a while... cuz i am at the age whr ppl get married... after this age, i guess the pressure shld ease off... :þ
I am so nonsensical tonite... haha... blabbling rubbish... dun mind me... i am tipsy... haha.. :þ
Nitez all...happy reading!
Nonsensical 芩 babbling sexily on and on @ 12/29/2004 01:16:00 AM
2 Sexy Soul(s) babbling:
At Wed Dec 29, 07:15:00 PM GMT+8,
Anonymous said…
Should the guy be willing to wait but after waiting, you don't accept him, he would be wasting his time, isn't it? If you feel for the person, you feel it, there is no time frame as to by when I want to be in a relationship or when I am ready to be in one. I am sure you heard of love is blind, feelings come when you least expect it, isn't it?? You feel the need for time to get to know him better? Go with the flow, by all means get to know him better lar. But love should not be based on time limit. If feelings are nonexistent, even if he waits for you for life, you won't like him means you won't, right?
At Fri Dec 31, 12:06:00 AM GMT+8,
芩 said…
Hi Anonymous,
Thanks for ur comments...I do understand...the rationale of not waiting.. i mean..i'm oso one who doesn't like waiting.. i shld know la... juz tt i do tink tt some things are worth waiting... for me, i tink if i really like someone, i wld wait for tt person for a while.. i tink setting a time limit is not really useless, it's more of letting him know if i wld accept, it wld be tt time...and i wasn't asking for a lifetime. i only asked for half a yr... i'm sure tt's reasonable.
i wld ask of ppl wat i tink i can do....
and i disagree wif some of the things u say...being in a rs is not juz abt feelings...it's abt commitment and responsibility... wat i can't give now to anyone is commitment and responsiblity...cuz i am still too emotionally hurt fr previous rs...this concept is one which can be understood by female but not male, not sure y...tink brain works diferently...
Since i wld like the next rs to be the last, i wan to be able to commit fully into the rs, and to be able to give my all...not juz half-heartedly commit in a rs and thus ending badly again...
But i guess a rs will work only when the person and timing are rite...so perhaps the time is juz not rite for him...
anyway...haha..tt day i was tipsy and juz blabbling...
so pardon me... it's not worth killing ur brain cells over some nonsense... :þ hehe...
anyway...still thanks for dropping by and leaving ur comments! I am grateful! :)
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