Arguments = Engaging Each Other

I remember that during the marriage prep class, the counsellor mentioned tt even though arguments might not be constructive...it shows tt the couple is still engaging each other...

This i agree. I tink arguments are important. not too often but yes necessary. Shows tt the 2 individuals are still individuals and have own opinions and might not necessarily always agree wif each other. tt compromise is still possible... tt both r still making the effort to communicate AND give in to each other...

Perhaps I look like i want people to give in to me ALL the time... but i tink it's the biggest mistake.. i also wan to be able to give in to people.. so i know i still am concerned about the person enuff to make the effort too.

And tt the power is still balanced... if one side always gives in and the other never....it shows that the power is really off balance liao... and resentment builds up.

Tot of this, cuz i heard my sister arguing over the phone wif her hubby working in china. Has a fiery temper, worse than mine but they are still okay...even though my BIL has been working in china for 2 or 3 yrs now...very long time... still engaging each other...which is very important..i know they tok to each other everyday. which is oso very important. keeping each other updated wif daily happenings in ur lives...tt's sharing the lives...

diff ppl...diff rs...diff ways to cope...diff ways to engage...

communication is very impt...and needs to be constant...